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Commitment n luv & n mariG, timiN & worries
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How 2 KissHow 2 Kiss advises goin carefully f U hav Bin d8N 4 sum tym & R tinkN bout commitment. U mA c DIS az jst a luv issU, o U mA c it az also a chldrn & housing & earnings issU !
D8N mA begin w a # of rEsNz pRhaps n mind & cn go fiN 4 sum tym w/o NE real commitment by eithR pRtnR. bt 1 o both mA @ sum tym wnt d relationship 2 bcum permanent - 4 luv o othR rEsNz.
D prob thN wiL ofn b dat evN w d best suitD cupL, 1 wiL b redE 2 commit earlier & d othR wiL nEd sum mo tym o mA not wnt 2 commit.
Some mA b redE 4 a full commitment aftR onlE 2 wkz d8N, bt sum mA nEd 2 yr.z d8N 2 b redE 2 commit.
Ther iz n 1 rght tym, & 2 wkz mA b Enuf 4 sum - especalE 4 thOs past thR mid-20s. bt 2 yr.z mA b nEdD by othRz, especalE f dey R yung o f dey hav had previous relationship probz.
F 1 iz redE 2 commit earlier, thN dey mA nEd 2 shO sum patience & GIV thR pRtnR sum mo tym.
4 sum D commitment question iz a simpl issU of luv onlE, f U luv thN U commit.
N dat case shON luv by bn rOmntc @ tImz mA b aL dat iz nEdD 2 git dem 2 commit. bt sum cn c it dfrntlE, az not jst d question of luv bt pRhaps az also bout chldrn & housing & earnings.
Sum mA wori bout M I redE 4 chldrn nw, cn we git k housing nw & R our earnings Enuf nw. sum wiL c DIS az d mo mature
consideration of commitment, & d onlE luv m@Rz' vu of commitment az bn less mature.
N genRL ppl hu tend 2 tAk rskz mo wiL mostly go w onlE luv m@Rz', & mo careful ppl wiL tend 2 considR d othR isUz also. & ofn SOME1 hu iz mo of a rsk taker mA tend 2 committN earlier.
It cn EzalE b dat 1 o evN both d8N prtnrs hav genRL doubts bout commitment dat dey Cnot rly explain. genRL doubts wiL NcluD stuff lIk Im not suR Im redE'. U cn jst b a doubter - do U evN doubt yor doctR ? f yor doubts R jst genRL doubts & U R jst gnrle a doubter, thN do not lt dat stop U frm makin a commitment o U mA weL lose a lot wen U c%d insted gain a lot. evN a doubter cn hav a lng :-) relationship.
F U hav Bin d8N SUM1 a whIl thN @ sum point it mA cum 2 a break-up prob. It mA o mA not hpn, it mA o mA not b a big prob & it mA o mA not git fixD.
BreakN-up iz a big prob f 1 o both d8N prtnrs fElz committD 2 d relationship - evN f DIS commitment hz not Bin discuSD. thN d break-up question shud b discuSD 2 c f d prob iz mAbE ;
1. A love-committD pRtnR anxis dat d othR pRtnR iz not yt love-committD ?
2. A not yt love-committD pRtnR anxis dat d othR pRtnR iz t% s%n love-committD ?
3. A cupL n love, w 1 o both prtnrs anxis bout chldrn, housing o earnings ?
4. A cupL n love, w 1 o both prtnrs havN genRL further-commitment wori ?
These typ of issU cn ofn b solved by discussion, w ideas lIk I wiL GIV U sum mo time', 'cn U GIV me sum mo tym', 'we cn deal w thOs woriez l8r', o 'genRL woriez do not m@R'.
br>If yor d8N pRtnR iz rly worEd bout committN thN mAbE U c%d agrE 2 n long-term commitment. mAbE U c%d both b k 2 agrE 2 commit 2 onlE d NXT 6 mthz, thN U wiL split unLS U both wnt 2 commit 2 NothA 6 mthz -
& U cn both c how it goes 4 U ?
OR f U cnt agrE on dat, thN U c%d mAbE agrE a 1-month-trial-separation & fix a NXT D8 4 1 mthz tym - wrte dwn d tym & plAc 4 dat D8. Do not pester yor pRtnR n a separation period,
bt knO dat breakups n shorter relationships cn ofn b mstakez dat cn cum rght w sum cAR. mA also b useful 2 discuS d prob w yor mum o dad. & f U hav Bin d8N 4 a yr. o so, thN mAbE U c%d both consult a relationship councillor ?
F U hav Bin d8N 4 mo thN 2 yr.z & Cnot git yor pRtnR 2 mAk a long-term commitment, thN U shud tAk it dat dey nevr wiL mAk a long-term commitment - & U wiL jst hav 2 Dcide f U cn go w dat o not. f yor relationship hz alredi lstD longer thN 2
yr.z thN c our breakN ^ sectN.